Thursday, 3 August 2006

It's ok.

No people. I read novels as well, not only self-help books, but I have to admit though, that the idea of self change is very appealing to me and I spend a considerable amount of time trying to rearrange my brain in order to live better, and this includes devouring self-help books. Good ones.

Some people get shivers when they hear the word self-help so I better call it self-development. I don't know. Is that better? Well, the fact is that I really want to mutate and create groovy biochemical bonds in my brain so I can function better and, for instance, be less irritated by the smallest things such as my workmates asking me simple questions like "Did you use to dance samba in Brazil? With you mates and stuff?" or "Is every Brazilian girl like you?" or even "Did it take long for you to get here?" Don't know why, it gets on my tits big time. Do they really want to know how long it took me to get there? I doubt it. Is it possible to have 100 million girls with the same personality or look just cos they live in the same country? Nah. AND I DON'T CARE ABOUT SAMBA, FOR FUCK SAKE. But hey, small talk, break the ice, it's all cool. I just need to find a way to go through these situations without much friction.

Also, I'm trying to get rid of my musts, shoulds, can'ts and other limiting thoughts. You know, everyone has them. At some point of our lives them thoughts were useful tools of survival but that time is gone and our brains need adapting. Many of these chemical bonds were formed before the critical-evaluative mind was formed (we were just silly kids) so let's push things forward.

Energized Hypnosis, A Non-book for Self Change by Christopher S. Hyatt, Ph.D. and Calvin Iwema gave me that last piece of much needed advice on the matter.

"Imprint theory states that at critical times during early development, or periods of imprint vulnerability, strong bonds are created as a result of one-time-learning.
Researchers such as Konrad Lorenz have studied this in animals, and have documented cases where a baby gosling was exposed to a ping-pong ball shortly after birth and imprinted it as "mommy". It then followed the ball around, nestled with it, and later in life attempted to mate with white round objects.
Although this research has not been studied extensively with humans, the possible similarities are worth thinking about."

I know what you are thinking. You are worried if the baby gosling is doing fine now. Not to worry. He is alright. Apparently he has been spotted walking around Shoreditch, a trendy London area, trying to mate with all shapes and colours. Well done, Baby G!


Indigobusiness said...

Oh man, you've lurched into the serious, once again. I'm going to search for another gear and say something, having read only half of your post. A dangerous tactic, for sure, but these are dangerous times.

Self-transformation is central to the purpose of being human. To dare realize what it means to be fully human. All wisdom traditions say so, in fancy and arcane ways. Even Taoism is about it, by not being about it.

It certainly is a noble pursuit. I admire your determination, and I'll offer a suggestion, my favorite self-help book:
Autobiography of a Yogi,
by Paramahansa Yogananda.

It helped me in immeasurable ways. Crystalized my trust in my instinctive spirit, and pulled me from utter self-destruction. If I had swirled much longer in the maelstrom of my own vortex, I would've surely disappeared up my own arse.

I'll go read the rest, now.

Indigobusiness said...

Aha! I read the rest!

So that explains why so many of my exgirlfiends were so much like tumbleweeds?

Paulette said...


Tumbleweed imprint! LoL

Thanks for kindly linking it to a dictionary. That's handy. I have seen tumbleweed flying around in american movies. Cool stuff, but I hope you re-imprinted yourself by now. LoL Have you?

I'll have a look at the book you recommended me. Nice one, Indigo. I love self-development. don't know why people are scared of it.

"Even Taoism is about it, by not being about it." :-)

Indigobusiness said...

I'm still a fool for prickly women.

dave bones said...

so how long did it take you to get here then?

Indigobusiness said...

Too damn long, if I understand the question.